God wants men to live out a healthy masculinity by embodying good judgment, respectability, and restraint while modeling robust faith, love, and endurance.
To prove that you are “above reproach” and ready to become a pastor, you need to first lead your family well, avoid destructive vices, and embody godly virtues in your real life.
The defining mark of a man who can be trusted with the authority to serve as a bishop is that he is above reproach, a genuinely good man who has developed a solidly good reputation.
Whenever God’s people are attacked by false teaching, God strikes back by giving us healthy teaching AND healthy teachers, overseers who have the responsibility to both share God’s message with people and then show them how to live out that message.